The age-old debate: is a short or long engagement better? Like most things in life, this is a gray area. There’s no right or wrong answer here. We’ll explore the pros and cons of each to help you decide what’s best for you and your partner.
Pro: No time for debate.
With a short engagement, you’re on a time crunch. That means you don’t have the time to debate about which photographer or caterer is the best. No time to second guess your decision.
Con: It might be more expensive.
On the flip side, the time crunch can also mean spending more money. Vendors often offer discounts to people who book them in advance, so you could end up paying full price. You also won’t be able to spend time waiting around for a sale. Additionally, if you want to do some DIY projects to save money, you’ll have less time to get to work.
Pro: You’ll get to keep the excitement high.
No matter how much you love your partner, as time stretches on, the engagement excitement fades. By getting married more quickly, you’ll stay inside the flurry of excitement as you plan the wedding.
Con: You might feel rushed.
Part of the excitement is also a sense of stress. If you don’t do well with short deadlines, a short engagement might be anxiety-filled for you.
Pro: No rushing.
By taking a long engagement, you alleviate the need to rush to important decisions. You get to take the time with each big decision for vendors, venue, food, and clothing. If you don’t like to be in a hurry, a long engagement might be right for you. Plus, the longer you’re engaged, the more you’ll get to wear cute engagement clothing, like our “Engaged AF” tank top!
Con: Don’t let it go on too long.
On the other side of no rushing – you don’t want to let the engagement go on forever, either. It’s easy to get content with things as they are at the present.
Pro: Build a solid communication base with your partner.
When you’re dating, you can talk about marriage hypothetically all you want, but none of that becomes real until you’re engaged. By having a long engagement, you’ll have plenty of time to communicate expectations and needs for the special day with your partner, and start the marriage off with a strong base of open communication.
Con: Wedding fatigue.
As the engagement stretches on, you might stay in a constant state of stress. With so much time on your hands, it’s easy to obsess over every small detail. Don’t let yourself get buried by to-do lists and due dates, as it can be mentally exhausting.
At the end of the day – you should focus on enjoying your engagement whether it is long or short. As you plan your wedding, try to remember that your engagement is a short period of your life that you’ll look back on fondly. Whether you choose a short or long engagement, enjoy this transitional time with your partner.
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